Things I won’t tell HIM…

I may be angry with you long before you even realize it, and the longer you take to figure it out, the worse it will be in the end. If I am quieter, more reserved, or less affectionate than usual, I am probably trying to give you the silent treatment. You may not realize it, because I am being passive aggressive, and I appreciate it. Instead of yelling at you, I ignore you because, as I mentioned above, I feels uncomfortable asserting myself. Also, listen to my voice. If my tone is tense, sarcastic, or bitter, I have something on my mind (and, yes, it is about you). Crossed arms, lack of eye contact, turning my back to you, and leaving the room are all dangerous signals.

Do NOT ask me what my problem is, or why I am being a pain. This is sure to set me off, because I’m not the problem, YOU are. Instead, ask the same question, but use different words. You must sympathize with me and always, always, ALWAYS assume that it is your fault. Begin by immediately sounding apologetic. Say, in a gentle tone, “Baby, are you alright? Did I do something to upset you?” Place your hand on my shoulder, and look me in the eyes (don’t throw your hands up and say, “Okay, what did I do now?!”). Now that I feel that you’re already sorry, i am more likely to tell you the problem. Chances are, you DID do something to upset me.
I will conclude by translating a few commonly heard statements. Once you know what they mean, it will be pretty obvious what to say:”Do you think she’s pretty?” = “Tell me how beautiful I am (and how much more beautiful I am than she is).”“Should I cut/grow/dye/perm/etc. my hair?” = “Tell me you love me the way I am.”“Be honest.” = “Be kind.”“Are you hungry?” = “I’m hungry.”“Nothing’s wrong.” = “Everything’s wrong.”(When you ask her where she wants to go) “I don’t care.” = “Don’t you dare take me to that place again.”